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Resolution check-in. Are you still doing the thing you said you would do just two short weeks ago? If you are, then great. If not, then I have a sneaky suspicion that change was much harder than you thought. Once given the option to keep going through the pain or give in to
Aware of the Possibilities
The first part of change is being Aware of the possibilities (the A of ABCD’s). As you may have read in a previous blog, I’m coaching my daughter’s school’s boys seventh grade basketball team. The best part of coaching for me is seeing young people who thought they could never do something, master that skill.
One of the primary skills in basketball is dribbling. Astonishingly, many players on the team hadn’t done much dribbling in the past. Maybe it’s the video game era, fewer children in the neighborhoods or the plethora of opportunities today’s generation
Care about the Difference
After being made aware that a skill is possible, do you Care (the C of ABCD’s) about the difference between your current ability and the possible ability? To care or not to care, this is the question.
This step is a choice. This is where many fall off the change wagon. They are aware, but simply don’t care. In this instance, I see Steph Curry or Kyrie Irving (two of
Dare to Make the Changes
We do a spider drill as a fun way to get better handles (another basketball term for the ability to dribble well). Do you Dare (the D of ABCD’s) to make the effort knowing failure is likely and frequent. Some players will try the drill even though they see the ball going all over the gym. Others will just stand there and say, they can’t without even trying.
This is the third step of change. Great leaders, coaches, teachers, parents
Bear the Weight of Changing
Can you Bear (the B of ABCD’s) the weight of changing? For most, this a challenge too great to endure. Change is heavy. It requires persistence, determination, discipline, focus, integrity, and many other frequently tested values. It is for this reason I believe many choose to revert their desire to their current default position as opposed to choosing the new position and relentless pursuing it. So when the ball falls away from you for the 20th time, do you grab it again and keep trying or do you quit? How do you address the voices that keep telling you, “You’re not good enough” or “If you just stop trying you can avoid this pain forever!”
The reality is this: These are all
Leaders know stagnation leads to obliteration. I’ve personally been obliterated from a video game and let me tell you it’s not fun. So why not continue to pursue the uncomfortable that is change. Sure my ABCD’s are really ACDB’s, but you get the point we’re trying to make in this blog.
Now that you’re Aware, do you Care to Dare and Bear the weight of change? Need help? Let’s talk! We are SPEARity, a local Milwaukee leadership coaching firm that specializes in business coaching, executive coaching, and leadership development training.